Two thoughts come to mind regarding the marriage of Colleen Saidman and Rodney Yee:
1. Yee tries to justify the seemingly non-yogic, failure-of-ahimsa, ultimate betrayal of a spouse with: “[W]hen love hits you, it just devestates everything. Everything was blown down.” Well, isn’t that exactly what someone who cheats on a spouse would say? More importantly, in my opinion (and since this is my blog, it’s always my opinion), a good rule of thumb in matters of the heart is that when it involves devestation and blowing everything down, it’s best to step away.
But what’s good sense and logic when you’re of the mindset that you’re not the master and mapmaker of your own actions? “There was something between us that was unavoidable,” Yee elaborates. Unavoidable? I can think of ways that that “something” might have been avoided.
I’m trying not to judge, but I can’t help but make the observation that in spite of our urges and desires, as human beings, our essential nature is to be able to control our urges and desires in order to honor commitments. Or else why make them? A commitment is easy right up to the point that you are tempted to break it. Then the work begins.
As I see it, you don’t become a “warrior” until you’ve hit your edge.
2. Why is it always, inevitably, the story of the Model and the Rock Star?